How do you want to be remembered?
Have you ever really thought about how you want to be remembered? On my journey of raising 3 boys while honoring who I am as more than their mother this is something I think about often. Besides my children what will be my legacy?
What will people think of when remembering me after I’m gone? It used to haunt me. I used to think about how I would only be remembered as someone's mother and as wonderful of a role it is- it is not ALL that we are. I want to be seen in my entirety I make it a point that my kids know me as an actual person. We share hobbies I talk about emotions I talk about JOY. I don’t strive for perfection because I know it’s some unattainable goalpost that moves constantly.
I want to be remembered for the fun I had with family and friends and cursed out for dying because who’s going to bring up odd things no one asked for? I want to give back to the world in a way that is notable I want to be remembered for that most of all! Authentic Joy and the opportunity to assist others in finding that joy drives me at the core of my being I am FREEDOM in human form. I want my boys to know that the women around them are people just like they are and we/they are not meant to purely serve their wants and needs. (I know it sounds a little crazy to some but YES we have personalities too.) Lol, I never want a day to go by when my mothering has brought harm to any of their future partners whomever they might be. Selfishly I strive to be my authentic self for my own advancement I want people to say DAMN your mom was a badass and she helped so many people I know why you came out the way you did and for them to beam with pride and say “yeah I know”. Lol, I want them to know how special my plants are and talk about how they inherited strange variations of my favorites. I want them to know I was in denial for the longest about being a plant mom and eventually accepted my new title after I purchased my first humidifier for a monstera I call “Diva”. I want them to know I prefer gold EVERYTHING and if they dare bring me silver I will kindly say thank you and then ask if they know me followed by “take it back”. I want to be appreciated as a person first then their mother.
So again I ask how do you want to be remembered? How much thought have you put into it? Here are some journal prompts that may help you if you’re having any trouble with the idea:
What makes me unique?
What are the values or joys I want to be known for?
What small actions can I start taking that will shape how I am remembered?
What makes me proud?
How do I give back?
How can I embrace and express my true self more fully, starting today?
What will my legacy be?
